During a talk about gaining financial control of your life, I once heard author and financial advisor Suze Orman ask, “Are you saying ‘yes’ out of fear, or ‘no’ out of love?” Suddenly, for me, the chaotic drama of interpersonal relationships coalesced into a self-awareness of why I answered “yes” when I really, really heard and felt the “no” screaming throughout every part of me. Why wasn’t I saying “yes” to myself? Sure it made sense when I got angry, I had been used, or at least caught unawares, right? They should have known better than to take advantage of me like that!
No, I should have known better and over the years I have gotten better about defining myself and my needs. I continue to learn what makes for healthy personal boundaries and how best to maintain them. It’s a journey and it starts with saying “yes” to yourself.
Learn more about Personal Boundaries
Join me at Luminessence Saturday, October 5th
from 10 am – 1 pm for Personal
Boundaries: Identifying & Maintaining. We will use discussion and
interactive techniques to learn to identify and maintain healthy physical,
emotional, and energetic boundaries. Empower yourself!
Wear comfortable clothes. Writing materials will be available but bring your favorite journal if you have one. This class is best suited for adults 18 years or older. If you have questions, please email me email@example.com
For those of you who haven’t met me yet, my name is Cai (rhymes with ‘day’) and I am a Reiki practitioner, Empowerment Coach, and mindfulness teacher here at Luminessence. Today I’m sharing a thought with you on intentions.
Afterwards, I invite you to visit my website Hummingbird Alchemy to find out more about Reiki and my healing journey (and… pssst… get a thank you gift when you subscribe to my email!)
Here’s a word we encounter often, especially as we delve more
deeply into understanding ourselves and the world around us. We hear ‘be clear
in your intention’ and ‘hold the intention for the highest good’ but how do we
do that? Think positive, right?
There-in lies a bit of the confusion, I believe, when it comes to living a life with purpose and intention: We think too much! Our brains are pattern-seeking devices with a job of categorizing every nanosecond of our lives. Each category creates fat file folders that manufacture more sub-folders until we have a bulging file cabinet with drawers that don’t close and countless piles scattered across our thoughts.
So I’m suggesting you try something a little different the next time you set an intention and this goes back to an earlier etymology of the word intendere – to stretch out. Stretch out beyond just thinking and engage all your senses in the process. Spend a bit of quiet time and run the idea through each of your five physical senses. What does that intention look and sound like? How does it feel to the touch? There will be a unique taste and smell to that intention. Let it take full sensual shape in your imagination and let it stretch out into your life and take root. As it roots, so will the enthusiasm that will feed its growth. Try it!
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